It has been a common belief that sexual desire decreases as we age, however that does not have to be so!
Research reveals that an individual’s sexual desires, actions and thoughts, continue throughout their lifetime. Sex is definitely not designed to be limited to the younger population.
A Healthy Sex Life Promotes Optimal Health
Human touch is an important aspect of one’s sex life that evokes feelings of joy, affection, intimacy, passion and romance which makes it a powerful emotional experience.
A healthy sex life is important for maintaining, improving and preserving a person’s physical, emotional and psychological health.
A survey commissioned by the National Council on Aging showed that almost half of the elderly or senior population surveyed acknowledged engaging in sexual activities at least once a month. They also claimed that their sex life had improved with age and that their sexual satisfaction was higher or equal to that of when they were in their 40’s.
Intimacy Knows No Age
Our need for intimacy is certainly ageless and is enjoyed regardless of gender or age. Although sex may no longer be the same when you reach the age of 70 or 80 compared to when you were 20 or 30, it can still be better in your senior years. This is because you are wiser, experienced and more aware of you and your partner’s needs.
As an older adult, you are now free from the unrealistic ideals that are often present in youth. You are no longer limited by the prejudices of other people. Also, your own children have grown and you now have more liberty to relax and enjoy each other’s company, in your own time.
The Road Blocks to a Healthy Sex Life
Too many adults worry about their sex life as they age. These worries spring from the effects of aging to their physical appearance and the concern of their sexual performance.
These thoughts may cause them to avoid any sexual encounters altogether. This then affects not only their sex life but their emotional and psychological health as well. Unfortunately, of course, there are individuals whose sex life is negatively affected by their medical conditions or the loss of their loved one.
It doesn’t matter what age you are, having or enjoying a healthy sex life is good for you! If there is something that is stopping you, it is time to look at the reason and see if you can address the problem.
The first step is honest appraisal of your situation. Are the limiting factors physical or emotional? If you are constrained by physical limitations, talk to your doctor. However, even physiological issues quite often have an underlying emotional basis.
Take time to understand yourself and your reasons. Be open and brave enough to discuss it with you partner and if appropriate, with a trusted counselor such as your family doctor.
Arm yourself with the right information and be proactive about your sexual health. Your ‘mental health’ and ‘joy of life’ is greatly affected by it. If you think you need professional help, then do not hesitate to do so.
An aging body should not deprive you of the opportunity to explore the exciting and sensual aspects of your own sexuality.
